Anyone been in this situation ?

this is actually very common. first of all you may know this but you do not need a man in your life to raise your baby. also aborting is wrong but its also your choice what you do with your body. make sure you have a good support system e.g. your parents (particularly the one you are closest to), sibling, and of course your friends and kids you have now. you are not going through this alone and more likely all of them will be there for you. as far as telling the guys parents i wouldn't just because the daddy isn't even trying to be in the picture. but if he decides that he does want to be in the babies life that is for him to tell them not yours. hope it helps.